One of the most important ways to build a strong foundation for your relationship is self-acceptance.  This is not limited to lesbian couples. In non-traditional relationships, there is a higher potential for societal rejection, social disapproval, and family or parental disappointment. Therefore, it is essential to accept yourself as a lesbian before you can expect others to accept this about you.  

After all, we teach others how to treat us. To be accepted, we must accept ourselves, our choices, and our relationship.  Every choice you make that discounts your relationship will chip away at its integrity, one piece at a time. You cannot create a happy lesbian relationship if you are not comfortable in your lesbian skin.

If you don’t accept yourself and your attractions to members of the same sex, then you are at a very high risk of eventually rejecting the one you love because she represents what you are not able to accept about yourself. As is true for other relationship configurations.

While you may not have to don our pride gear to know you are accepting yourself, just be sure you never find yourself apologizing for loving who you love, or for "protecting" others from your truth. Love is not what harms people... it is what heals people.

We cannot build a strong foundation of love on fear and self-loathing.

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